House of Ryze — BDSM

Slick, Epic List of BDSM & Kink Terminology

Posted by Cynthia Moreno on

Slick, Epic List of BDSM & Kink Terminology

We're all individuals, and no labels can box us in. The terms below are to help you navigate convos & situations, not to be used to judge others. Many terms that seem negative can be 're-claimed' as positives, such as "slut"....

 

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Kink 101: Fetishes, Bondage, & Other Fun Things

Posted by Cynthia Moreno on

Kink 101: Fetishes, Bondage, & Other Fun Things

Kink Traditions Are Ancient & Run Deep.

The earliest mention of the term 'BDSM' I could find was 1969, but people engaged in kinky sex acts long before that. It became a truly 'mainstream' word when E.L. James published her book, Fifty Shades of Grey. Her book was a hit! But people in the BDSM-community were furious 'cause they hated the way James portrayed their lifestyle, mainly because she left out the importance of 'Safe, Sane and Consensual,' which is a common BDSM motto.

whether E.L. James got it wrong or not, the point is this: BDSM is more than just a cool room with cool toys and a safeword. It's a lifestyle. It's a deep, consensual commitment you make to another, even if it's only for one night (or one spanking.) You commit to giving control of yourself over to another or vice-versa, safely and sanely.

You can probably tell I'm pretty passionate about it, and that's partly because...

I've got a quarter-century of BDSM experience.

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